Posted on March 26, 2013 - by Khaled
Success is the sweetest thing for winners!
In my opinion, and most importantly to be successful you must be confident. And to be confident you must know yourself, commit yourself and be genuine! Of course dreaming and trying to achieve your dreams is crucial to prevent your self from full satisfaction and keep yearning for bigger successes.
The most dangerous obstacle in the face of your success is the belief that your success depends on luck! Indeed, believing in luck focuses your mindset on a fictional concept that neither you nor anybody else can alter or affect! What’s even worse is that you will allow yourself to consider luck as an excuse to explain and justify your failure (just bad luck). This is more dangerous as it undervalues your successes ( just good luck) which may alter your self-esteem.
But how can you assess your own success? I stumbled on this quiz few years ago and I am not sure of its initiator but I find it very helpful to measure one’s success in life despite that Success itself has no clear and single definition. I created a spreadsheet and I try to answer this quiz’s questions with marks between 0 and 10. I always revisit this spreadsheet every few month to evaluate and have an estimation of “the evolution of my success“.
This has become a ritual over the years and helped me to reach a satisfying state of general well-being and ambition to achieve more.
The quiz consists of the following questions (give yourself a sincere and honest mark from 0 to 10)
- Finding and being involved in meaningful and fulfilling work?
- Finding and living with suitable spouse partner?
- Building and nurturing a successful, healthy relationship with your significant other?
- Having and raising your children?
- Building and maintaining a close relationship with your parents?
- Building and maintaining a close relationship with your siblings and other family members?
- Developing close friendships?
- Overseeing and stewarding your finances?
- Living up to your full intellectual potential?
- Nurturing and developing your spiritual potential (this might differ according to religious and moral believes)?
- Dealing with your fears?
- Finding wisdom?
- Being in a good physical shape and taking care of your health?
- Taking care of your emotional well-being?
- Being of service to others and helping them?
- Being at one with yourself?
- Accepting your limitations?
- Coming to terms with aging and your own mortality (and the mortality of the close ones) ?
- Everyone at birth is “dealt a hand”, rate the quality of the “hand” you were dealt?
- Rate yourself on how well you believe you have achieved, given the hand you were dealt?
If you have an overall score of less than 100 you need to work harder and rethink many things in your life. Reconsider your big choices, and review your decisions. I am satisfied when my score is over 130. It is actually difficult to do good in all the considered areas.
Then you need to asses each mark individually. Try to focus on the questions with marks lower than 5 (or even 6 if like me your ambitious and demanding).
Now you have to decide what are you going to do to improve how well are you doing in this particular area? How are you going to achieve this improvement? How long should this take you? Next time you answer again to these questions weigh how good did you do according to your plans to progress in your “weak” areas. Consider if you at least kept a same level of self-confidence and satisfaction in all the considered areas. As said earlier, I’m taking this as a routine to ponder and review my life and decide what actions have to be taken (how and when too).
All the considered areas (questions) used to evaluate your “Success & well-being” are mainly based on five fundamental components that are
- Connecting with people
- Being active and productive (physically and mentally)
- Being curious, being aware of the world around us and taking notice
- Keeping the learning flame alive
- Giving emotionally and materially to people around you.
These were defined since few years now as the 5 Ways to Well-being by the new economics foundation (NEF).
Do you have a way to measure your success? Feel free to share it and to discuss with me either here or on Twitter: @khaled_ouanes.